The family's legislation

 Guiding principles of establishing and protecting the family.

Serenity and happiness are among the most important objectives of marriage. The Almighty Allah said: «And from His signs is that He created from yourselves your wives, that you find serenity with them, and He has set between you affection and mercy. Surely in this are signs for people who reflect». [Sûrat Ar Rûm/the Romans, 21].

The constancy of an individual in the marital life is the way to innovation, and it is achieved by relying on the following principles:

1-The spouses' response to their mutual needs.

1-The exchanging confidence: it is the most important pillar for the establishment of the marital life.

2- Consideration and care: it means to show consideration towards each other and mutual care for their moral or material needs.

3- Esteem and respect: the spouses must avoid the verbal injures and the bad treatments towards each other.

4- Understanding: each one of them tries to understand the other and provides the necessary conditions of harmony.

5- Gratitude: The Almighty Allah appealed to this good moral. He said: «And do not forget the good between you ». [Sûrat Al Baqara/The heifer, 237].

Each of them must acknowledge the good of the other.

6- The feeling of safety.

2- Avoiding the destructive means of the marital life.

1- The domination of the husband and the mannishment of the wife.

There is no good in a dominant and oppressor husband, but rather in a resolute one who has a stable personality and takes decisive decisions.

And there is no good in a woman who behaves        in mannish manner. It is better for her to remain on her femininity. The Almighty Allah Said: «And the male is not as the female». [Sûrat Al Imran/The people of Imran, 36].

The Almighty Allah wanted to show that the relation of the spouses is that of diversity and collaboration and not that of contradiction and discord.

2- Unrestrained jealousy: Jealousy is required but without excess. If jealousy exceed over the required limit it becomes a means of destruction.

3- Multiplying claims: This happens when one the spouses shirks his or her responsibility and burden the other with it.

4- Hesitation: this behavior is the contradiction of firmness which shows the weakness of personality in taking decisions.

5- Offending each other: it is to hurt each other either by mockery or harsh criticism.

6- The interference of a third part in the marital life without a legitimate regulation, because the marital life can be thwarted by such interference.

7- The deviant behaviours: as practicing violence, drugg and alcohol addiction…

3- Constructive dialogue.

This can be achieved by:

1- Communication: each of the spouses must endeavor to consolidate the ties with the other.

2- A good listening: to lend an ear to each other and avoid interruption and destruction while discussing.

3- The clinging to reason: to behave in a right and reasonable manner towards each other is a good and praiseworthy behavior, and if one of the spouses commits an error before the other and confesses it is better than continuing doing it.

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